The Unfair Weight Of Shame

The weight of the shame I felt after I was sexually assaulted was enormous. From the minute I opened my eyes in the morning to the second I fell asleep at night, I was aware of the weight. It was a physical burden that I carried around with me at all times. If you...

What Is Impaired Consent?

Impaired consent is the inability to give coherent consent due to alcohol, drugs, mental illness or handicap. Consenting Remember, consent needs to be freely and willingly given by all parties involved in a sexual act. Consent is ongoing, meaning that all parties are...

What Happens After A Sexual Assault?

A sexual assault can trigger a lot of different emotions. A survivor may feel angry, or sad, or humiliated or some combination of emotions that can’t be explained. Some survivors, like me, will feel these emotions without even realizing that their experience can...

How Do I Know If I’ve Given Consent?

I teach a self defense class for women at my police department. It’s a great (free) program that I highly recommend. As an instructor, I have the opportunity to teach woman techniques that might help prevent them from becoming victims. I take a lot of pride in...

I Didn’t Know It Was Sexual Assault

My senior year of college should have been one of the best experiences of my life. I was on track to graduate with honors, I was the editor of the sports section for the school’s newspaper and I was dating a guy I thought I was in love with. What could possibly...