The Unfair Weight Of Shame

The weight of the shame I felt after I was sexually assaulted was enormous. From the minute I opened my eyes in the morning to the second I fell asleep at night, I was aware of the weight. It was a physical burden that I carried around with me at all times. If you...

Emotional Warfare: Isolation

There are many tactics an abuser can use to control and manipulate his victim. In a previous article, I talked about gaslighting, which is a tactic my abuser used often. Today, I want to focus on another common tactic: isolation. In today’s society, we’re...

5 Huge Red Flags Of Abuse In Relationships

The trouble with abusive relationships is that we tend to only see the warning signs of abuse in hindsight. Unfortunately, abusers don’t wear neon signs around their necks that say “I’m an abusive boyfriend.” Until we figure out some sort of labeling system, it’s...

Why I Stayed With My Abuser

It’s been several years since I finally left my abuser. In that time, I’ve been able to reflect on the past. Looking back now, there are more red flags and warning signs littering my field of vision than you can imagine. In hindsight, I can see the writing...

4 Tips For Dating After Domestic Violence

Dating after leaving an abusive relationship is hard. The emotions that come with being a domestic violence survivor can be overwhelming. The thought of trying to open up to someone knew can be terrifying. The whole experience can be anxiety inducing. Everyone’s...

What Is Impaired Consent?

Impaired consent is the inability to give coherent consent due to alcohol, drugs, mental illness or handicap. Consenting Remember, consent needs to be freely and willingly given by all parties involved in a sexual act. Consent is ongoing, meaning that all parties are...